Today I have the great pleasure of being the host on Day 10 of the Virtual Blog Tour of author Kimberly Coots, whose book DIVINE WORTH – Break the Bonds of Unworthiness and Create the Life You Desire! launches on Amazon on Tuesday May 24, 2011.
Author Kimberly Ann Coots is a transformational life coach, business development coach and speaker. Her passion is to help shift humanity’s consciousness from fear, lack and separation, to love, connection and abundance. Through her coaching, courses, speaking and books, Kimberly is a guide to transforming unworthiness conditioning, stepping into your power and living a life you love. She is certified in many holistic and spiritual modalities. She has been ordained as a Spiritual Peace Minister by James Twyman, is a certified Reconnection Healer by Dr. Eric Pearl and is a Facilitator for the Seminary of Spiritual Peacemaking. As a successful business development specialist, Kimberly also helps entrepreneurs make a profit and a difference.
Yesterday, Kimberly visited Andrea Hylen at http://whyisaidyes.blogspot.com/ where she answered the sole question Why I said Yes.
Today, I’d like to share with you a recent interview I had with Kimberly when I got to ask her some questions about the #1 cause of unworthiness amongst women, undoing the patterns of unworthiness and subtle ways unworthiness shows up in our lives. I hope you enjoy it.
Paula Tarrant: Kimberly, what do you see as the #1 cause of unworthiness amongst women today?
Kimberly Coots: That’s a great question, Paula. The #1 cause is measuring our worth based on outside influences or circumstances.
Many women identify (and sometimes lose) their sense of self and value in their roles and relationships. As mothers, wives and entrepreneurs or employees, we are constantly giving and making sure everything is working as smoothly as possible. If we expect a certain outcome or result from our giving and guiding, and it doesn’t happen that way, we can take it very personally and feel not good enough.
Another significant outside influence is the media, advertisements and society in general in respect to body image. We’re inundated constantly with what “desirable” looks like, and feel pressured to buy products and services that help us fit that mold if we don’t live up to it. We need to let go of that pressure and re-define desirable. To me, it’s a woman who is centered and grounded in her self, expresses her divine feminine essence, exudes authentic confidence, and claims her worthiness regardless of her dress size, hair color or her marital or professional status!
The truth is, you are not your roles and functions, and your worth isn’t based on them. Your worth is unconditional and divine; and it’s already inside of you waiting to be discovered and celebrated just as you are. You don’t have to look a certain way, achieve certain accomplishments, or perform a certain way to be worthy!
Paula Tarrant: How can women begin to undo the patterns of unworthiness in their lives? Is there a favorite tool you have you could share with us?
Kimberly Coots: There are many tools, and I share more than 25 of them in my book Divine Worth. For me personally, becoming aware of and changing self-limiting beliefs has been one of the most profound.
Self-inquiry is a great way to become aware of these beliefs and solve the puzzle of self-limiting patterns. Check in with yourself and ask yourself how you’re feeling. What thoughts might be causing those feelings? What beliefs may be causing those thoughts? What past experiences may be causing those beliefs? What new meaning can you give to those experiences?
For example, I had a pattern of valuing myself based on how the men in my relationships treated me. Of course they could never treat me good enough to make me feel like I was good enough. I asked myself how I was feeling in these relationships and learned that I was feeling neglected and under-appreciated. Then, I discovered that the thoughts I had were about blaming men for not being there for me and making me feel important. That awareness led to me discovering the belief that I’m not good enough. When I considered what experience(s) may be causing that belief, it went back to having an absent father in my life.
Since my father chose not to be part of my life, I felt unlovable, unimportant and unworthy and I formed the belief that those feelings were true. The new meaning I gave this experience is that my father was stuck in his own self-limiting thoughts and patterns, and he didn’t know how to love me the way I needed to be. His absence wasn’t because of me. I took back my power and I stopped looking for validation of my worth in my relationships with men.
Paula Tarrant: What are some of the subtle ways unworthiness can show up in our lives, which we might not be expecting, or might not see as connected to unworthiness?
Kimberly Coots: Ah, there are many “masks” that unworthiness wears, and I have a chapter dedicated to those many masks. Some of them include:
• Being a perfectionist
• Criticizing self and others
• People-pleasing and/or co-dependency
• Not allowing yourself to receive
• Being the victim
• And even having a superiority complex – having to be better than others
Paula Tarrant: What happens when we claim our value and worthiness?
Kimberly Coots: When you claim your true divine worth and value, you give yourself permission to live a life that you love! You connect with your heart’s desires and fulfil them, you share your gifts with joy and you let go of what doesn’t serve your highest good so that you can open up to receive what does.
I hope you enjoyed this interview with Kimberly Coots and that you’ll check out her book DIVINE WORTH – Break the Bonds of Unworthiness and Create the Life You Desire! at http://divineworth.com/book-launch/pages/pre-launch.html
FREE 3-DAY PASS
When you visit the page at the link above and request a “launch reminder”, you will automatically receive a FREE pass to Kimberly’s 3-day “Discover Our Divine Worth Telesummit” with 9 leading authors, Coaches and Speakers on How You are ALREADY Worth Enough to Create The Life You Desire. You can listen to the telesummit online in the comfort of your own home, and even ask questions during the broadcast.
This telesummit is a completely free
“no purchase necessary” gift from Kimberly
When you buy Kimberly’s book on Tuesday May 24, 2011, you can ALSO receive a complete library of beautiful personal development gifts from authors, speakers, coaches and other enlightened professionals from around the globe including one from me …
Transformation Made Easy(tm) Success Kit
To claim your 3-Day Pass and read about the free gifts, go to: http://divineworth.com/book-launch/pages/pre-launch.html
Thanks for reading! As usual, please feel free to share your comments and thoughts below. I love reading your feedback.
AND… be sure to follow Kimberly tomorrow when the next stop on the Virtual Blog Tour is Lynn Serafinn, who will be interviewing via her recent BlogtalkRadio show where Kimberly talked about her book Divine Worth and her personal journey overcoming depression and family history of addiction. To visit that “stop” on the tour, go to http://tiny.ly/7jcP